How I discovered the art of truly closing a relationship

(And why real closure changed my entire experience of love)

For a long time, I mistook endings for closure.
I thought that once you said goodbye, stopped texting, or deleted someone’s number — it was over.
But it wasn’t.

The relationship still lived inside of me — in my thoughts, in my body, in my energy.
And that invisible thread kept pulling me back into the same story, again and again.

My story of not finding closure

For years, my love life followed the same painful pattern: emotionally unavailable men, on-and-off situationships, moments of passion followed by sudden silence.
At one point, I even fell in love with a married man.
It’s not something I’m proud of, but I now hold that version of myself with deep compassion.

I was starving for connection.
I confused intensity with intimacy, chaos with love.
And every ending left me emptier — because I never actually closed.

Sometimes I rushed into the next relationship before I was ready. Other times, I stayed single for months, hoping that time alone would somehow heal me.
But every new relationship felt eerily familiar — same emotions, different face.
That’s what happens when you end something but don’t spiritually, emotionally, or energetically close it.

The art of truly closing a relationship

It took me years — and many heartbreaks — to realize that I wasn’t just unlucky in love.
I was carrying unfinished energy.

My body was trying to show me what my heart refused to see.
I was somatizing — my vitiligo was spreading, my energy collapsing.

That’s when I decided to stop running from the pain and start listening to it.
After years of talk therapy, I realized that healing had to go deeper.
I turned toward my body.

I began to explore somatic healing — learning to feel my emotions without being consumed by them, and to move energy through breath and awareness.
Slowly, I began to close my past relationships one by one — not by reaching out, but by finding closure within myself.

I learned to release the energetic cords still connecting me to those men.
To forgive what I couldn’t see at the time.
To take full responsibility for my part in each dynamic.
To see every man not as a mistake, but as a mirror — each one revealing what was ready to heal.

It wasn’t about blame; it was about integration.
And once I began to truly close — emotionally, spiritually, energetically — everything shifted.

Eight months later, I met my husband on El Camino de Santiago.
By then, my heart was open, my energy clear, my nervous system grounded.
I was no longer looking for love to complete me.
I was connected to the source of love itself.

Ending vs. Closing a Relationship

An ending is when a relationship stops.
A closing is when its story releases its grip on your heart, your body, and your energy.

Ending is external.
Closing is internal.

It’s the moment you can look back without contraction in your chest — when your body finally exhales the past.

Spiritual, Emotional, and Energetic Closure

Spiritually, closure means honoring the relationship as a sacred teacher — seeing it not as a failure, but as part of your soul’s journey.
You stop asking “Why did this happen to me?” and start asking “What did this come to awaken in me?”
That shift turns pain into wisdom and victimhood into sovereignty.

Emotionally, closure is the courage to feel what you once tried to fix or avoid.
It’s allowing waves of sadness, anger, longing, and grief to move through you — not to drown you, but to cleanse you.
Because emotion, when allowed to move freely, becomes motion — energy returning to life.

Energetically, closure means cutting the invisible cords that keep your energy entangled with someone who’s no longer in your life.
These cords can feel like longing, obsession, or nostalgia — but they’re simply energy waiting to be released.
When you reclaim it, you call your power and light back home.

The Feminine Path of True Closure

For women, this healing runs deep.
The womb — our energetic center of intuition, memory, and creation — carries imprints from every relationship.
When we consciously close a past bond, we clear that space for something new to be born.

That’s the essence of feminine healing — not to move on, but to move in.
To feel. To soften. To return to your body and your feminine wisdom.

Why closure is essential for new love

When a relationship ends but isn’t closed, its energy stays active — shaping your beliefs, your emotional patterns, and even your next relationship.
You either remain stuck in the past or repeat the same cycle with a new face.

Conscious closure breaks that loop.
It raises your vibration, clears your energy, and opens your heart to a new, higher form of love.

This is the work I now guide women through inside Phoenix — my private 1:1 journey of emotional release, somatic healing, and rebirth.
Because love doesn’t end when a relationship ends.
It simply transforms, inviting you to rise into a deeper, truer expression of it.

When you close with grace, you don’t just move on —
you move up,
into the frequency of sacred, lasting love.